disliking others feels different now (Boundaries Series)
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Now that I understand boundaries a lot better, I've stopped disliking individuals in the same way I used to. For example, a while ago I met someone and thought that they were a bit creepy/manipulative/inconsiderate. So I avoided this person for a long time after that. However, we collided again recently when they said Hi to me at a gathering. And while when I first met person, I hadn't understood my boundaries or how to communicate them, now I did! And I was actually able to interact with this person quite enjoyably! Frankly I don’t think it was because they changed— they still asked me a few invasive and uncomfortable questions, for example. But now I knew that I could just decline conversational directions I didn't want. And that this was fine.
I loved this. I was randomly looking at this book in a bookshelf today, and had a conversation with a friend where I was able to genuinely set my boundaries where I haven't been able to before. Also wanna say that as per your other post about just saying your own experience rather than trying to generalize, I think you did that in a good way here that made this more powerful
I loved this. I was randomly looking at this book in a bookshelf today, and had a conversation with a friend where I was able to genuinely set my boundaries where I haven't been able to before. Also wanna say that as per your other post about just saying your own experience rather than trying to generalize, I think you did that in a good way here that made this more powerful